Ghosted, But Not Gone: 4 of 4-Part Blog Series & Reflection Questions

Blog 4: The Hardest Thing Is Not Talking to Them

This final blog tackles the most haunting version of ghosting: when the person remains in your world, speaking to others but cutting off communication with you. It includes the painful reality for survivors of co-partnering or working alongside the new person they were replaced with.

Even in the presence of silence, you are still heard by God.

There’s a form of ghosting that stings deeper than disappearance. It’s when they stay connected to your world—speaking to your colleagues, your co-parent, your mutual friends—but refuse to respond to you.

It’s selective silence. And it’s painful. But here’s the deeper ache: the hardest thing is not talking to them. Not asking why. Not defending your worth. Not trying one last time to be heard.

And yet… you don’t. You stay quiet. Because you’ve learned that healing doesn’t come from their reply. It comes from your release.

Isaiah 30:15 — “In repentance and rest is your salvation, in quietness and trust is your strength.”

Your silence isn’t weakness. It’s wisdom. It’s war against the old pattern that says you must beg to be acknowledged.

One of the hardest parts of recovery is resisting the urge to talk to the person who hurt you—especially when they remain in your world. You may want closure. You may want peace. You may just want to be acknowledged. But they are not the one who can give you what you’re seeking.

Let this be your reminder: Healing does not require their response. It only requires your choice to move forward in dignity, not desperation.

Ghosted Blog 4 Part Series Reflection Questions List

Dr Brooke Jones, Founder & President Stronger Women [email protected]