Ghosted, But Not Gone: 4-Part Blog Series & Reflection Questions
Blog 1: Given to the One They Chose
Being passed over doesn’t mean you were unworthy—it means they couldn’t carry your value. This post explores the gut-punch of watching someone give their yes to another and the grief that follows when you were nearly chosen.
You weren’t chosen—but you were still called.
It’s one of the quietest heartbreaks: the moment you realize someone chose them over you. Not just in dating—but in friendships, professional opportunities, collaborations, or spiritual connections. You were in the room. You were considered. But someone else was chosen.
And it’s not just the rejection—it’s watching them give what you wanted to someone else. That ache lives in the space between “I was almost enough” and “I was never meant to be.”
In that gap, shame tries to nest. Grief follows. But here’s what you need to know: being passed over does not define your worth. It reveals their capacity. What others fail to choose doesn’t determine the value of what you carry.
When you have been a human who has been abused, rejected, devalued, ashamed, put down, and wounded, once any rejection begins it can be hard to stop the avalanche of overwhelming emotions that follow. Immediately, these emotions of rejection send us into modes of terror and fear even beyond the reality of the situation. Once the trigger of the pain has occurred, it can be difficult to find hope once again.
The only way we know how a person moves from today to tomorrow, is they have to believe they have a part in it. They must be able to set a goal, no matter how small, and create pathways to achieve that goal. This creates willpower and Hope which can sustain a person into tomorrow and into a new future.
Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.”
You weren’t chosen? That hurts. But take heart: you are still called. And God never passes over His daughters.
Even in the presence of silence, you are still heard by God.
Blog 1 Reflection Questions
- When have you felt passed over, and what message did that moment send to your heart?
- How do you usually interpret rejection—is it about them or you?
- What truth can you reclaim about your identity that doesn’t rely on being chosen?
- What part of you still longs to be seen?
- What’s one step of hope you can take today—without waiting for someone else’s yes?
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Dr Brooke Jones, Founder & President Stronger Women [email protected]